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Yin Yang Relationships - How to Find YOUR Perfect Partner
John Boe


Yin Yang is the ancient, Chinese symbol for balance. It depicts
the strong attraction and complementary nature of opposites. Just
as magnate and metal attract, while oil and water repel, we too
are subject to these laws of nature in our relationships. For
example, we have all met people for whom we feel an immediate
affinity or for some unknown reason, an instant dislike. We are
attracted or repelled by others instinctively. This intuitive
feeling goes beyond physical attraction. In reality, what we are
responding to is the natural chemistry, or lack there of, between
temperament styles. Understanding temperament styles will not
only have a positive impact on the way you see yourself, but it
will also enhance your relationship with others. If you are
single, it will provide you insight into selecting a compatible
partner. If you are a parent, it can dramatically improve the way
you raise your children. If you are a salesperson, this
information will significantly enhance your sales effectiveness
by enabling you to build trust and rapport quickly.


Hippocrates, the father of medicine, is credited with originating
the basic theory of four temperament styles. He concluded that
our behavior style was determined genetically at birth rather
than from external influences such as astrology or birth order.
Hippocrates identified the physiology of each of the four
temperament styles and concluded that we are born with a
combination of four genetic influences: Choleric (Worker),
Sanguine (Talker), Phlegmatic (Watcher) and Melancholy (Thinker).
According to Hippocrates, the extroverted Choleric (Worker) was
short-tempered and ill natured, but had a dynamic desire for
action! The extroverted Sanguine (Talker) was cheerful, outgoing
and optimistic, but not very serious or organized. The
introverted Phlegmatic (Watcher) was slow and sluggish, but could
stay calm, cool and collected under pressure. The introverted
Melancholy (Thinker) was deep, sad and depressive, but also a
thoughtful, gifted and analytical genius.

It is important to note that we are born into our temperament
style and that it is unrelated to race, gender, or age. Our
personality is comprised of traits from all four styles but our
primary and secondary styles will have the most noticeable
influence. By reviewing the traits of the four temperament styles
listed below, you will be able to determine your primary and
secondary style.


The Choleric (Worker) is:

Extroverted – Determined – Demanding – Domineering – Controlling
– Practical - Self-reliant – Decisive – Independent – Confident -
Goal-oriented - Risk-taker –Aggressive – Insensitive – Impatient


The Sanguine (Talker) is:

Extroverted – Enthusiastic – Emotional –Sociable – Impulsive –
Articulate – Optimistic – Persuasive - Self-absorbed – Generous –
Egotistical – Charming – Unorganized – Playful - Personable


The Phlegmatic (Watcher) is:

Introverted – Accommodating – Harmonious – Agreeable – Indecisive
– Uninvolved – Sympathetic – Undermining –Patient – Supportive –
Stable – Possessive – Passive – Selfish – Bashful - Tolerant


The Melancholy (Thinker) is:

Introverted – Analytical – Thoughtful – Organized – Critical –
Shy – Detailed – Pessimistic – Sensitive – Diplomatic –
Economical – Loyal – Introspective – Private – Conscientious –
Moody


Unfortunately, most people do not appreciate the value of
temperament diversity in their relationships. Some people define
a successful relationship as one where they have similar
interests and much in common with their partner. Many make the
fundamental mistake of believing that similarity is the key to
compatibility.

The most common and natural attraction of opposites is between
the introvert and extrovert. Like the attraction between Yin and
Yang, introverts and extroverts recognize in one another the
qualities and traits they require for balance. The two most
naturally balanced relationships are between the Worker & Watcher
styles or the Talker & Thinker styles. Due to their aggressive
and controlling nature, the least compatible relationship is
between two Workers. All relationship combinations can work if
people understand the temperament dynamics and are willing to
make adjustments as required. Whether it is a nation, a company,
or a personal relationship, strength and balance are found in our
complementary differences, not in our similarities.


John Boe, based in Monterey, CA, is recognized as one of the
nation’s top sales trainers and motivational speakers. He helps
companies recruit, train, and motivate salespeople to achieve
peak performance. John is a leading authority on body language
and temperament styles. To view his online Video Demo or to have
John Boe speak at your next event,
visit http://www.johnboe.com



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