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Weight Loss - Stop Being Hard On Yourself
Weight Loss - Stop Being Hard On Yourself
By: Wendy Hearn
Web Address: http://www.PositiveWeightLoss.com
http://www.WeightLossCoaching.com
When you’re going through the process of losing weight and
getting fitter and healthier, there may be many times when you
will eat food which perhaps isn’t healthy for you. Or perhaps
you overeat or don’t exercise. This is quite normal and most
people find that they do this. The difference between losing
weight and not losing weight is how you handle this.Do you give yourself a hard time mentally and really beat yourself up for doing it, perhaps saying "It was stupid to eat all those
chocolates", "What’s wrong with me – can’t I even resist some
cake?", "Why can’t I motivate myself to exercise this week, when
everyone else can?" or even "I’m useless at losing weight."
Hey - just look at all the abuse you’re heaping on yourself.
Would you speak to a friend in the same way? I doubt it. Yet in
some ways it seems okay to abuse ourselves.
I’ve heard many people label themselves in a negative way,
particularly with regard to losing weight. Labels such as ‘bad’,
‘useless’, or ‘no willpower’. A common phrase is whether you’ve
been ‘good’ or ‘bad’ this week with your eating habits. "I’ve
been ‘bad’ this week because I ate a Chinese takeaway." I really
encourage you to steer clear of using the expression ‘bad’.
There may have been many instances during the week when you ate
healthily. Yet any diversion from this and you immediately label
yourself as ‘bad’. The problem is when you label yourself this
way, you tend to get stuck into giving yourself a hard time,
rather than finding a way to accept what you’ve done and then
move on. When you give yourself a hard time, you’re more likely
to overeat as a means of dealing with how you feel about
yourself. What is this costing you personally? What do you
achieve by being hard on yourself? When you understand what you
achieve from this, you’ll find it easier to find a solution and
move on.
Beating yourself up keeps you trapped and the way to permanent
weight loss is to keep moving forward. Let’s say you’ve eaten
some extra food and you find yourself caught into giving yourself
a hard time. What’s the way forward? I suggest you create a
sign for yourself that says "Stop giving yourself a hard time."
This can be a real sign, such as a sticker on your computer
screen, in your handbag, or on your kitchen cupboard. Or it can
be an imaginary sign in your mind which you create. You can add
color to it, a smiley face, anything which lightens it up.This isn’t meant to be another way to beat yourself up. This sign is
supposed to be fairly light-hearted with the intention of moving
you on from this impasse of giving yourself a hard time. At
those times when either you’ve eaten extra food , or eaten
unhealthily or not exercised and you begin to mentally abuse
yourself, call on this sign, either by reading it or visualizing
it. By referring to this sign during the day, you’re likely to
be gentler with yourself. It’s a way of catching yourself,
forgiving yourself and then moving on. When you can forgive
yourself for what you’ve done, you’ll find you’ll get back to
being healthy more quickly.
What will it take before you stop giving yourself a hard time?
Wendy Hearn
Weight Loss Success Coach
Author of "The Top 10 Things That Stop YOU From Losing Weight"
http://www.PositiveWeightLoss.com
I work with people who want to lose weight and have a great
life. I offer individual and group coaching, via the telephone
or email. http://www.WeightLossCoaching.com
Copyright 2000, Wendy Hearn. All rights reserved.
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