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Dominant Women - Why Can't Men Resist?
Joseph T Farkasdi


I know that there is a lot that I still need to learn about
passionate sex and the art of making love. Learning that I don't
get at home, because my woman is as much of a submissive as me.

This makes growing in applied sexual skills a real challenge for
me, because I need this dominant-submissive role play between my
lover and I. Sadly, I find myself really in a struggle to
physically, in a sexual way, show my love for the significant
other in my life. The sex is great when we have it, but... She
doesn't get enough of what she needs in the way of sex with me,
because I'm not getting the dom-sub role play that I need. I
really need a dominant in the house sexually enticing me to
intimacy. Unfortunately, she's too much like me, a submissive to
the core sexually. We both want more and, sadly, we're both
losing out. But, ...

We've done a lot of talking about it, and she has made it clear
to me that I need to get involved with others to satisfy my need
for sexually intimate role play with a dominant lover - so that
I'm motivated to do my manly duties more often and more
spontaneously at home to satisfy her needs. Yes, she's a very
understanding woman, who recognizes that a strictly monogamous
relationship between her and I is not going to work between us -
if we truly want to be happy as relationship partners. We both
need the option to share intimacy with others, while staying
committed to each other. And, so long as our affairs with others
causes an intensity in sexual intimacy between us, our
relationship is deepened for the better for us. It is this kind
of mutual understanding that makes our relationship strong. The
only requirement I put on this understanding between us is that
she should be aware of who I'm being intimate with, if and when I
should do this.

With these truths to our relationship shared (as embarrassing as
it maybe through sharing it openly with the world), I would like
to now share a deep desire that I have (and have always had
throughout my adult life):

I am in need of engaging in a submissive-dominant relationship
with a woman, or a woman and a man, who is by her nature a clear
sexual dominant. I am seeking a woman or couple who can have a
healthy friendship with me, and yet expect me to sexually submit
myself to their training one night out of each week. The goal is
to train me to be a truly realized applied and motivated sexual
lover even when sharing a moment of intimacy with an outright
submissive. I expect to sign a written contract of submission
training with the woman or couple willing to train me in this
way, where I am bound by my signature to fulfill this weekly
arrangement with them.

The rules and objectives of this submissive-dominant relationship
are simple and clear. One, I agreed in writing to submit my time,
mind, and body to her or them in this intimately sexually
submitted way one evening or day out of each week. Two, that I
give her or them my complete trust and obedience to her or their
every sexual desire that is expected during our weekly time
together. Three, that everything we do together is done with some
form of lighting in the room. It is understood that if we are
outside the home, this situation might be different. Four, that a
bare-handed spanking will be applied to my unclothed rear-end
when it is perceived that I am not showing appropriate enthusiasm
or willingness to obey her or their desire. Five, that I
progressively demonstrate increased skill and knowledge on how to
make sexual love to others over the course of our sub-dom
training relationship.

It would also be clearly understood between her or them and I
that my woman will clearly be kept up-to-date on our sexual
activities and what I am supposed to have learned through them.
And, I will be expected by her or them to demonstrate these new
learned skills regularly in our (my woman and I's) sexual
relationship. By insuring this communication, my woman becomes
the judge of whether I am effectively learning from her or them
the sexual skills (acts and behaviors) of a true lover. My
woman's feedback to her or them allows her or them to determine
what she or they need to do next to spur the growth desired of
and within me. And, clearly, if I am not making use of these
newly developed skills, I understand that I will be appropriately
punished and required to go through a more stringent remedial
training concerning these skills. This I understand up front and
give my fullest intent not to put my woman or my dominant(s) in
this situation. I want to learn.

Is there a woman or couple willing to form this kind of sexual
arrangement with me? A relationship based in good friendship, but
very stringent to the obligations above when it comes time every
week to engage in submissive-dominant training? I seriously need
a relationship of this sort to satisfy my sexual needs, to bring
balance within. And, I do want to become a better lover to my
woman in the process to better satisfy her sexual needs. Just as
importantly, I want to please and satisfy my dominant woman
friend or couple by giving myself (mind, behaviors, and body)
fully and enthusiastically to our weekly arrangement for her or
their satisfaction. If a woman friend or couple that knows me is
reading this and finds my offer here desirable, then talk with me
about it and lay the contract before me and, together, we'll talk
to my woman about it. And, if all of us are in agreeance over
this arrangement, I'll sign it and live by it fully with you. I
give you my word on this!


Joseph Farkasdi is a fictional writer and social commentator. His
online expressions range from the sharing of deeply opinionated
thoughts on life, love, and relationships to the ever stirring
wild and sometimes wet erotic fantasies that stretch one's secret
imaginations. His photographic works are as revealing and
shameless as his willingness to share all without inhibition. You
can view his web site by clicking on http://www.jfarkasdi.org/



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