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Women's Sexuality - Sexuality and Religion
Tina Helm


I believe that what you believe about sexuality is directly tied
to what you think about religion. Or rather, how you FEEL about
sexuality is in direct proportion to how you FEEL about religion.
I have said for a very long time that I am not religious.
However, I do not think that is quite true. I believe that I find
religion in places where others do not look.

I think our beliefs about religion and sex must have some
commonality. If there is a chasm between those two primary
beliefs, there is a great fissure in our very being. Some
unresolved controversy that we can not completely get around
within ourselves.

This issue leads to guilt, self deprecation, self hatred, and so
forth. We begin to see others who are comfortable in their
sexuality as the enemy. To see others doing what we want to do
sexually, but that we 'believe' to be wrong from a religious
standpoint becomes a great burden.

I was taught growing up that 'God' was male. That he would take
care of my soul. I would always have that original sin problem,
but that he would love me anyway. (kind of like being born with a
defect of some variety) I was taught that sex was only good for
reproduction and women who liked it were harlots. I was taught
men liked sex and that was ok. There were the women men married
that they believed would take good care of their families and
them, and then there were the women they would have sex with
outside of that marriage for fun. If you were having sex with a
woman who enjoyed it, she was NOT the kind of woman you would
marry.

http://www.christianadvice.net/sexuality... Two areas that sort
of reflect what I personally was taught can be found in the areas
of: Why is sexual desire so powerful? and When sexual love
becomes selfish

 From what I have been able to determine about Satanists, they
believe that sex and sexuality are the highest form of
interacting with another human being. That any sexual act, as
long as it is consensual, is acceptable and should be enjoyed. It
is not so much about the quantity of sex, but the quality of sex
one has. Every person should be free to enjoy the KIND of sex
that they desire.

http://www.dpjs.co.uk/sex.html "...the Satanist would not
intentionally hurt others by violating their sexual rights. If
you attempt to impose your sexual desires upon others who do not
welcome your advances, you are infringing upon their sexual
freedom. ... If all parties involved are mature adults who
willingly take full responsibility for their actions and
voluntarily engage in a given form of sexual expression - even if
it is generally considered taboo - then there is no reason for
them to suppress their sexual inclination." Anton LaVey's The
Satanic Bible pp70

This article lightly touches on Amish culture.
http://www.weeklyworldnews.com/features/... Founded by a Swiss
tailor in 1693 on principles that include a strict adherence to
the Scriptures and excommunication for church members who violate
certain rules, the religious order known as the Amish came to the
U.S. in the 1700s and settled in Pennsylvania. Today, more than
180,000 Amish live in twenty-eight states. Through a high birth
rate, the Amish have managed to double their population every
twenty years. Contrary to the austerity of the Amish stereotype,
when it comes to sex, they're relatively liberal. "The Amish see
sexual activity as a normal, healthy part of living," says Donald
B. Kraybill, author of The Riddle of Amish Culture. Young people
can be promiscuous, fooling around at Saturday night parties and
staying overnight at the houses of their betrothed. They tend to
have short engagements; if a girl gets pregnant, she just gets
married. 2004 by Tara McKelvey

There are so many religious views that one article can not
possibly cover all, or even most, of them. We will need to
approach many more intimately with an article devoted to each.

This last article was simply interesting reading while doing
research for this article and others. I think that many people
are using terms that confuse what they actually wish to discuss.
Both in terms of talking to others, and in their own thinking.

http://www.thiemeworks.com/islands/aug/s...

Perhaps if we were able to easily communicate our beliefs to one
another, as well as ourselves... there would not be so much
conflict between sexuality and religion.

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