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Married Or Single With Children
& Managing A Sex Life

Exploring Ways For Parents To Stay Intimate
With Themselves & Their Partner

Written By Greg Hall


If you are a parent you know that it is quite a challenge to
maintain a healthy sex life whether you are a single parent or
with a significant other. Even time for masturbation can seem
challenging. Throw a partner into the mix and you have a near
impossibility!

Below you will find some tips on how to get in touch with the
more sensual side of life while keeping healthy boundaries with
your children.

It's easy to stop trying to seduce one another after the
honeymoon period of a relationship, but after kids are born,
partners can become so wrapped up in their parenting roles that
they lose sight of all else. Yet, because regular sex keeps
couples more light-hearted, more affectionate and less
argumentative ensuring that you are "gettin' some" is important.

A lot of couples say they often feel too tired to have sex, but
once they get going, they realize, "Hey, this feels great. We
should do this more often!'" Children should be taught to respect
their parents' need for private time without them. Not only does
setting boundaries around this allow for private time, but it
teaches a child that they are not the center of the universe and
need to respect other's needs beyond their own. A good lesson if
you ask me.

The following list is designed to help parents establish both
sexual boundaries and privacy with their children:

1. A lock on the bedroom door. The earlier that kids learn to
respect the privacy of the parental bedroom, the better, but it's
never too late to get a locksmith out to the house.

2. A white-noise machine, loud humidifier, fan, radio or boom box
that can be moved close to the door. You will be more relaxed.

3. An off switch on the bedroom phone. Use it.

4. Private space with a lock for storing anything you'd like your
kids not to see like sex toys, lubricant, etc. (a file cabinet, tool box,
or desk drawer works).

5. Have sexy sleeping wear. Remember the early days of courtship?
You wouldn't have been caught dead in gray T-shirt, and it's
time to bring sexy lingerie back to the bedroom. We're all more
likely to feel sexy when we look sexy.

6. A reliable babysitter. Whether you want the sitter to take the
kids to an afternoon movie while you play at home, or just connect
over a candlelight dinner, having time that you can depend on to
be together is important to recharging your sex life.



Good Bedtime Routines For Couples-

1) Going to bed together creates the opportunity for physical
contact, as well as emotional contact.

2) Kissing each other goodnight.

3) Set 30 minutes aside every night to talk without the kids
around. If you have 30 minutes a day of friendly conversation in
which you're not talking about the bills and you're not talking
about the kids' schedules, but just visiting with each other
like a good friend your marriage will be healthier and so
will your children



A Smoochie Idea For Couples-

One of the first physical activities to go on a sexual
relationship with a partner is kissing. Oddly many couples will
have sex but have not kissed one another more than a "peck" in
years. So on that premise, I will review some kissing techniques
below to perhaps remind you of how wonderful it can be and how to
start making the passion in your relationship hotter.


Kissing Techniques-

The key to good kissing is creativity and listening to your
partners cues. Creativity speaks for itself. Creativity includes
trying new ideas, and/or new combinations of movements, locations
and moods. Listening refers to paying attention to your partner's
verbal and nonverbal signals. Is your partner excited? Is your
partner in an aroused mood?

Remember that a sensual kiss can often be very slow in it's
motion. The slowness can actually raise the sexual tension by
'pacing' the sexual encounter.

Routines sometimes can act to diminish the excitement, because
the other person already knows exactly what will come next. In
that way, a 'first' with someone new is always exciting, because
you simply have no idea about what to expect.

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