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Time For A Quickie!
Sharon Jacobsen


Technique! We seem to have become obsessed by it! There are
probably thousands of books offering detailed explanations of ways
to make love to your partner. But what about spontaneity?
Where's that gone? What about the pleasures of the impromptu
quickie? You're both horny, there's a raw urgency in the air,
and you need it NOW!


Some women are afraid to let their partner know that they'd like
a quickie. Supposing he misinterprets it and thinks you just want
a quick shag that can be over and done within next to no
time because you can't be bothered with the 'real thing'?

The truth is, if you're horny and lusting for him, wanting a quickie
will just show how much you still fancy him on a physical basis. You
wouldn't feel irked at being desperately wanted by the bloke you
fancy most, would you?


Sex serves many purposes and variation is no bad thing. One purpose
is the reinforcement of that private bond which exists only between
the two of you; something nobody else can share in. For this reason,
having a quickie in a 'forbidden' situation can actually strengthen
the relationship. When everybody is in full swing at the party, a c
ouple that go outside and urgently make love have a secret
that's theirs alone.


The excitement of being found out is also frequently linked with
quickie sex. Having a quick romp in a semi-public place (such as
behind the garage at the above mentioned party) can be highly
stimulating. The feeling of 'naughtiness' often leads to intense
arousal, culminating in delicious sex that's equally as good as the
sex we'd ordinarily have in our comfortable beds with plenty of
foreplay.

The term 'sex-positions' takes on a whole new meaning with
quickie sex and couples often find themselves in positions that
they'd never have otherwise experimented with. Old pieces of
furniture, a wall, a washing machine or anything else that happens
to be close by comes into its own when no-frills sex is on the menu.


One or both partners are usually partially dressed, something
which in itself can be very arousing. Being held up against a wall
with one breast outside your bra, your knickers around your knees
and trying not to kick those litter bins for fear of attracting
unwanted attention.... well, it could just as easily be a fantasy!


There's no right time or place for a quickie. Only your imagination
can limit where and when. If you really want it, you'll find a place
or situation that will be suitable for a bout of urgent sex. The
kitchen table, the garden shed, or even a toilet seat will do. Just
keep one thing in mind - no matter how desperate you are, it
really isn't a good idea to subject unwitting by-passers to your
amorous frolics. There are plenty of exhibitionists around, but
we aren't all voyeurs!


Happy bonking!

Sharon grew up in East London but moved to Norway at the age
of 19, returning to England in 1998. She now lives in Cheshire
with her partner and two of her three children. Besides writing,
she is currently studying Social Science with The Open University,
runs a web site where women in the UK can meet other women
for platonic friendship www.friendsyourway.co.uk  potters in
her garden, knits and reads everything she comes over.


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