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Oral Sex - Fellatio

How to perform oral sex on a man
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The key to good sex and oral sex is to satisfy the senses.

Taste, smell, touch, sound, and sight are all the senses you need
to consider. Satisfy the senses for you as well as your partner.

Satisfy yourself first. When it comes to oral sex, flavored
lubricants are helpful for good taste and lubrication for those
people who don't naturally produce much saliva. My personal
favorite flavors are watermelon and pina colada. I also indulge
in cucumber-melon pheromone spray, which I spray in the bedroom
only for a second before our bedroom adventures. Although the
pheromones are intended to set a sexual mood, it also just smells
good and that makes the experience better. If you're open to
this, you should also consider watching adult videos and possibly
trying some oral sex techniques that the porn stars use during
fellatio or cunnilingus. This exposes you and your partner to a
new experience and can be quite fun.

To satisfy your partner during oral sex, think about satisfying
all the different senses and frequently make changes while giving
oral pleasure. It's most arousing when a variety of techniques
are used rather than doing the same thing over and over. Also be
sure to ask your partner what feels good or if anything doesn't
feel all that good. If you're going to give head, you might as
well make it an enjoyable and memorable experience for your
partner.

Your partner may like the mouth candy that is applied directly
over your teeth. This gummy candy covers all your teeth, blunting
the sharp edges that make head not so fun for your partner. This
oral sex candy is smooth for him and tasty for you. It is also
messy as it "melts" all over him and you. Be sure to use your
hand as well because your partner would agree that the messier it
is, the better it will be for him.


For your partner, the most important aspects are likely to be
touch and sight.

A crucial part is for you to take complete control when giving
head. Don't be shy or embarrassed in the bedroom because no rules
apply here. It's all about making yourself and your partner happy
in the bedroom and that's it. Being confident and aggressive
about your actions will make your partner know you are truly into
it. Satisfy your partner by letting him/her lay back and enjoy
without having to do a darn thing.

Change tongue, mouth, and hand pressures while you touch your
partner. For instance, go harder with your hand one way and
softer when you change directions. Lick and suck everywhere you
are comfortable doing so and make yourself more comfortable with
every portion of your partner's body. All parts are very sensual,
as you will notice when doing the deed.

Change velocity when playing with your partner. You can go faster
one way with your hand and slower when you go the other way.
Partner this with pressure changes, and your partner will be
mesmerized by your expertise.

Experiment with your partner. For example, change temperatures.
Ice may be nice before warming it up with a tongue dance. Make a
mold of your partner, possibly with wax ... I saw this once and
it was given to a VIP who paid heartily for the mantelpiece.

There are many things to consistently change during oral sex. Go
all different directions on your partner's sexual areas,
including the penis, shaft, anal area, nipples, and so on. Move
your tongue, mouth, and hands side to side, up and down, around
each direction, upside down and inside out ... anything you can
think of, just do it. Your partner will love that you're going
for it and doing whatever you want.

What does your partner want to see? Look good for your partner.
Do your hair and makeup and make sure you're clean. Experiment
with different sexy outfits and possibly do a strip tease before
your head surprise.

What does your partner want to hear? Even if you've never done
this before, consider watching an adult video with your partner.
Watching and listening to sex experts during a video gives you
and your partner ideas about what can be done. Fantasizing is
also another option. Tell your partner a sex story ... anything
you want to say is good. Or role play if that is appealing. The
key is to keep it interesting by experimenting with exciting and
new ideas.


An oral sex topic that women often fear is what to do when he
cums or ejaculates. Communication beforehand won't lead to
unhappy endings where you feel your partner overstepped what you
wanted to do. It's up to you to let your partner know your
comfort zone. Some women choose to let their partners cum on body
parts, such as breasts, back, vagina, and so on. For those people
who like their partners to cum on their faces, it's a must to
agree on whether it's ok to cum with mouth open or closed, tongue
out or not, and if swallowing or spitting are comfortable during
oral sex. It often works to start with body parts, build to the
face, tongue, and then mouth. Once you decide it's ok to cum in
your mouth, start with spitting. If this is ok, then try
swallowing since this will most likely be the biggest turn on for
your partner. If you do not like the cum to be near your throat
because of a sensitive gag reflex, such as I have, then use your
tongue to block the back of your mouth with the tip at the mouth
roof. Then your partner can still cum in your mouth without
making you gag. If you respond badly to cum, then this is the
best option. For example, I've tried many times to swallow, and
throw up each time. I've learned that for me it's ok to cum in my
mouth with the tongue blocking the throat, but forget doing more
because it doesn't work—it has to be a fun, pleasurable
experience for both partners. And what kind of partner wouldn't
want that too? You may also find it uncomfortable if your partner
thrusts in your mouth; if this is the case you need to let your
partner know. He should be happy to hold still to make the
experience better for you. If you're not enjoying anything,
discuss with your partner what could be improved for you because
you should get enjoyment out of pleasing him. Figure out what to
experiment with and talk to your partner, say where you're
comfortable starting, and agree about what will happen before the
act. Continue to openly communicate and this will guide you and
your partner through your erotic experimentations.
 

 

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