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Mutual Masturbation
Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.


Okay so most of us know how to masturbate alone and probably do
so quite often when the need arises, but we can also use
masturbation as a couple to add a little variety to our sexual
smorgasbord and to spice things up a bit.

Oh yeah, seeing my lover on his knees on the bed stroking his
shaft with the look of exquisite pleasure on his face is one of
the most erotic images for me, and for many men, seeing their
woman touch herself and bring herself to ecstasy is extremely arousing.


So masturbating for each other can be a great addition to our
sexual repertoire. No only is it stimulating, but it is also a
magnificent way for us to learn how to touch our lover. We can
observe where, when and how they touch themselves, taking
note of intensity and speed and we can learn how to satisfy them
better by adopting their methods when we masturbate them.


For example: we can learn does our lover like her clitoris
stimulated through the hood or does she need it exposed or we can
learn does our lover like to be stroked hard or gentle.

We can take turns being the voyeur and the exhibitionist. If one
partner enjoys mutual masturbation and the other feels a little
shy, then you could try making a game out of it where the not
so shy one can try to catch the shy one without their knowing
and spy on them while they masturbate. This way the shy one
can be uninhibited and the not so shy one can get their arousal.
You could have the ending be that you both climax alone during
the act of the game or you could set it up so it ends with intercourse.

As you practice masturbating for each other it will help bring
down inhibitions and you can grow closer together.

Masturbating for each other can be used as an alternative to
intercourse if we are not in the mood or it can be a part of
foreplay. It is a great form of sex if we are in a new relationship
and have not moved full steam ahead yet. It can also be used
if one partner is too tired for intercourse, and yet wants to
participate in satisfying their partner.


We can also masturbate each other. Taking what we have learned by
observing our partner and applying it. We can take turns with all
the attention focused on one partner at a time until they climax
or it can be simultaneous. It can be very arousing to watch our
partner stimulate us manually as we stimulate them, as both partners can
benefit from viewing and being viewed. We can be the voyeur and
the exhibitionist at the same time.

We can add toys to the scenario and try a variety of different
positions and locations as well. Perhaps a camera or video camera
would be fun.

Ahhh, the possibilities are immense. Be creative, adventurous and
playful.


Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed. is a writer, educator, advisor and coach
specializing in sexual intimacy, erotic communication and keeping
the fire burning in your relationship.
A FREE E-zine packed full of advice, tips and erotic stories to
keep the sizzle in your relationship can be found ather website.
Sex and The Soul http://www.holistichelp.net/sexandsoul


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