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Is She Cheating? -
Many Unsuspecting Husbands Find Out Too Late
by Ruth Houston
© 2004
Couples therapists report a 50% increase in female infidelity.
The cover story in the current issue of Newsweek magazine is all
about cheating wives: “The New Infidelity – From Office Affairs
to Internet Hook-Ups, More Wives Are Cheating Too.” Yet, as
widespread as female infidelity has become, many unsuspecting
husbands have no idea their wives are having an affair. They
often find themselves in a situation like David in the Newsweek
article, who found out his wife was cheating the day she told him
she wanted a divorce. Unsuspecting husbands are often surprised
when they learn about a cheating wife’s extramarital affair. But,
the stark reality is that if a husband isn’t familiar with the
signs of infidelity, by the time he finds out his wife is
cheating, it’s usually too late.
Women Don’t Become Cheaters Overnight
Yet many of the signs may have been there all along. A woman
doesn’t become a cheating wife overnight. Infidelity develops in
stages. In almost every case, there are numerous telltale signs
along the way. In fact, many of the warning signs of impending
infidelity are evident long before the physical act of infidelity
actually takes place.
Know How to Spot the Telltale Signs
The husband who knows how to spot the signs of infidelity has a
fighting chance to save his marriage. He won’t end up like John
LeSage in the Newsweek article who was devastated when he came
home one day and found that his wife of 24 years had disappeared.
John said, “I would have done a lot things differently, but I
never got the chance.” This loving, but unsuspecting husband
never knew his marriage was in jeopardy because he was unfamiliar
with the warning signs.
Identifying the Problem
The first step in solving a problem is knowing that the problem
exists. There are certain telltale signs that serve as a wake-up
call that a marriage is in trouble. A husband doesn’t need to
hire a private detective or invest in sophisticated surveillance
equipment to find out if his wife is having an affair. If he
knows what to look for, all he needs are his eyes, his ears and
his personal knowledge of his wife. Knowing what to look for is
the key.
21 Categories of Telltale Signs
There are 21 categories of telltale signs, with numerous signs in
each category. Of course, no can be expected to know them all.
That’s why it makes sense to invest in a relationship reference
book like Is He Cheating on You? in order to become more
knowledgeable about the warning signs. After all, most families
have a medical reference book in their home to alert them to the
signs and symptoms of health and medical problems. The same thing
applies to marital problems like infidelity.
Universal Telltale Signs
Some of the signs of infidelity documented in Is He Cheating on
You? – 829 Telltale Signs apply exclusively to cheating men. But
many of the signs are universal and apply to both cheating
husbands and cheating wives. Additional information about
infidelity can be found at www.IsHeCheatingOnYou.com Although the
website is primarily directed to women, about a third of the
e-mails received come from men seeking advice about various
telltale signs.
So What Should a Husband Do?
With infidelity affecting 80% of all marriages, the husband who
values his marriage would do well to become familiar with the
warning signs. He should always strive to be aware of his wife’s
feelings and keep abreast of the things that are going on in her
life. It’s not about being overly suspicious. It’s about keeping
a finger on the pulse of his marriage. Forewarned is forearmed.
This way, he’ll be equipped to recognize even the most subtle
telltale signs. The future of his marriage may well depend on his
ability to spot those telltale signs in time.
© Ruth Houston 2004 All rights reserved.
Ruth Houston is the author of “Is He Cheating on You? – 829
Telltale Signs”. For more information about the book or about
infidelity, visit http://www.IsHeCheatingOnYou.com or
http://www.InfidelityAdvice.com
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