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How to Be Irresistible to Women
Terry Hernon MacDonald


You don’t need a guitar, a good pick-up line, rock-hard abs, or
even a full head of hair to make a great impression on a woman.
Follow these tips, and she’ll want to hear from you again real
soon:


1. Go out with another woman. If you’re going out to a club or a
bar, take a female friend or your sister with you. Women are
often more amenable to talking to men who are with other women.
It gives them the feeling that you actually like women, and
that’s attractive. If your female friend is outgoing, see if
she’ll make small talk with somebody you’d like to meet. She can
say something along the lines of, “I love your necklace!” and
that should do it. After a little back-and-forth, your friend can
say, “Oh, how rude of me. This is my friend Andy,” and you’re in
business.

2. Look women in the eye. It seems elementary, but you’d be
surprised at how many guys either undress a woman with their eyes
or avoid eye contact altogether. Women love it when you look them
in the eye.

3. Don’t try to “buy” her. If you buy her a drink, she is
obligated to say thank you and that’s it. If she accepts the
drink, the polite thing for her to do would be to spend a little
time talking to you, but that’s all. On the other hand, if a
woman takes the drink and walks away, let her go. You wouldn’t
want spend time with her, anyway. Trust me.

4. Find out her interests. Get her talking about what she’s crazy
about, whether it’s David Bowie or the New York Mets. If you
don’t get it, you can say something like, “You know, I’m not too
familiar with Bowie. What CD would you recommend?” Or, “I’m more
into football than baseball. What is it about baseball that you
like?” Ask a woman her opinion, and you’ll have her eating out of
your hand (we have more in common with guys than you think).

5. Listen more, talk less. Hey, I’m not suggesting that you let
her do all the talking, but some guys meet a woman and then never
shut up. Don’t try to impress her! Don’t brag about your GPA at
Harvard, the Jag in your driveway, or the fact that you’re CEO of
a tuna fish conglomerate. You’ll get precisely the kind of woman
you don’t want, the one who’s only into you for your achievements
and possessions, rather than for who you really are. Instead, ask
questions and listen for the answers. Give your opinions. Get to
know the woman. Let her get to know you.

6. Be optimistic. In other words, this is no time to discuss how
oil prices are going through the roof, what a witch your
ex-girlfriend was, or that your parents never gave you enough
attention. If you run out of things to talk about, ask her if
she’s seen the latest hit at the box office.

7. Be chaste. Do not try to go to bed with a woman right away.
Sure, there’s a chance that if you go for it, she will, but if
you’re hoping for a lasting relationship, you set up all sorts of
weirdness if you “do it” too soon. Crazy as it sounds, if she
sleeps with you, she may not respect you in the morning (you
didn’t know that, did you?). She’ll figure that you get into bed
with every woman you meet, which pretty much rules you out as
boyfriend material. (Or she may be the type who thinks you owe
her because she slept with you, which makes her really bad
girlfriend material.) Save yourself undue angst and get to know a
person before you go to bed with her.


8. Make a great exit. If you want to see her again, ask for her
number (Preface this with something casual, “Maybe we can get
together some time.”). Then touch her shoulder (a little
restraint is here; don’t try to kiss her) and tell her
you’ll be in touch. Then leave. If your friends aren’t ready to
go yet, tell her you have to hang out with them. Walk away. The
key here is to keep her wanting more.


9. Call her. If you said you were going to call, you can avoid
looking desperate by waiting two days, but no longer. A plea on
behalf of the female: If you’re not interested in a woman, do
not—I repeat—do not say you’ll call. Say, “Nice meeting you,” and
be on your way. Besides, collecting numbers to feed your ego is
kind of sad.


10. Treat women as you’d have them treat you. The media have
brainwashed us to believe that men come from one planet and women
come from another, but we’re all human. Some of the biggest
losers in love are women who complain that all men are the same,
they all want one thing, and so on. But it’s equally sad when a
guy assumes all women are like his mother or his psychopathic
ex-girlfriend. You’ll enjoy astonishing success with women if you
understand two simple facts: We’re people. We’re more like you
than you think.


Terry is the author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your
Dreams" and the host of "Romance Talk," an Internet radio show
for singles. To listen, go to http://www.healthylife.net. Please
visit Terry's website at http://www.marrysmart.com


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