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Things To Avoid At Your First Date
by Oscar E. Walter
The Eight Commandments of Dating
Finally, after a year of mending a broken heart, you come out of
your shell and announce to your friends that you are ready to
meet other people.
However, after several years of having a steady date, you find
yourself feeling eerie going back to dating. It's like you're
clueless. You can't recall what your first date like with your
ex- partner (or you intend not to recall). And you really want to
make it right this time.
At the midst of your apprehension, your friend calls you and
excitedly announced to you that she got you a date. She talks
nonstop about how gorgeous this guy is and went on to endless
list of this guy's achievement and best features. Meanwhile, your
thoughts had drifted to your many anxieties on having your first
date ever after a major break-up.
You are afraid that you might screw it up. That the guy may not
be as good as your former. That you will be tongue-tied the
entire time you are together. Perhaps, you may never have any
thing to say to him. That you might become a lousy date. Or you
are never really be prepared on going back to the dating game
yet.
Don't fret. You are not alone. Many have gone through the jitters
too. And it is usual. Don't be too hard on yourself by backing
out just because you fell like you can't make it. It's just a
matter of knowing what to avoid to make your date click.
Here are the EIGHT COMMANDMENTS OF DATING to the rescue.
1. Thou shall not be late
Do all the necessary preparations ahead of time. I suggest that a
night before the big day, choose your outfit already. So, that
you won't hurry dressing up for your date. You don't want your
partner to see you wearing the wrong pair of earrings. Make sure
that when your guy knocks on your door, you are all set. Cramming
is one disaster risk factor. So, be careful not to cram. Having
your date stand for 10 minutes on your day will not create a nice
impression.
2. Thou shall not narrate break-up history on thy date.
For God's sake don't do this. You are supposed to have fun and
not sour grape over your most recent break-up. And besides, past
is past, bury them all on the ground and start anew. Your date is
suppose to be a new prospect, not a shock absorber. Your friends
have that role already. Instead of dwelling in the past, know
this new guy in front of you more. Ask him about his stuff like -
what he does, his kind of sports, hobbies, interests and more
until such time you arrive at your common interest. Little do you
know, that you have been talking for three hours straight and
enjoying every minute of it.
3. Thou shall not be tongue- tied
Don't let your date ask you where your mouth is because you
cannot think of anything to say. Or there's something wrong with
you because your answers are all monosyllables. Let him get to
know you better. Tell him what you do on your work, on your free
time, your favorite activities, sports and stuff. You can
initiate a conversation to impress him more. Men want their women
to be witty and sensible.
4. Thou shall not compare
The man in front of you is totally a different individual. It
will be unfair to pattern him to your previous guy or make a note
of comparison. What you should do is discover this new person in
front of you and forget the past guy even his name if you wish
to. Comparison as your standards will not put you anywhere. It
will just make your date a disaster. And please, do not dare
verbalize your notes of comparison with your date.
5. Thou shall not come in thy worst appearance.
Hey, you are dating because you want to hook up with the right
guy this time. So, you have to create a good impression. Don't
make your date run away from you because you look like you've
come from another planet with your dress, haven't taken a bath
for days and smell like garbage. Be on your best attire. Look
good and smell fresh. That way, you can captivate his attention
the entire time you are together. And he'll be proud of you as a
date.
6. Thou shall not be silly.
The worst thing you can be is looking silly. Do not talk things
as if you're a pro if in reality you are clueless. You would end
up saying the wrong things that will confuse your date a lot.
Look smart. If you happen to be unaware of what he's saying about
the sports hockey, ask him questions. He will even be amused
because you are paying interest on what he is talking about.
7. Thou shall not be aloof
Guys will be uncomfortable if they notice that their date seems
to be aloof with them. Remember, it is both your first time to
see each other. So, he is equally nervous about your date. Don't
make him feel more nervous by being distant. Let him feel that
you intend to enjoy the night with him. Be friendly enough to
give him your sweet smile. Don't give him a cold shoulder. If he
feels that you welcome his presence, he'd be motivated to ask you
for another date.
8. Thou shall not be nervous
Don't worry too much on having a great date instead enjoy your
date. If you feel nervous, you're most likely to shake. It will
be embarrassing if your date caught you holding a glass shaking.
Don't be over powered with his presence. Show him you can manage
yourself well. Be confident. Look straight in his eyes when you
answer his questions. Flash your best smile. Amuse him with your
wits and looks. Guys love women who are empowered.
For more dating tips, links to great dating sites and free
personals go to http://www.easy-dates.com
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