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The Best Position for Making Love
Lynn Peters


It's relaxed, easy and -- if you get it right -- it can also be
the most satisfying

Let me say here and now, without shame or blush, that I like the
missionary position.


Making love while lying on my back with my husband on top is
familiar, comfortable. It's the meat loaf and mashed potatoes of
the sex manual. If you're hungry, it fills you up; if you're
tired, you can still manage a morsel. Beluga caviar it ain't, but
like a Quarter Pounder with cheese, you know how it's going to
look, how it's going to taste and how long it will take to eat.
And if you want to make it fancy, you can always add fries and a
salad.


At one time the missionary position was sex. As a kid, if I read
about sex or glimpsed a love scene on TV before my parents
switched channels, that was the position the couple was in -- the
man on top, the woman gazing up at him adoringly. But then came
the '70s. The hemlines went down and women went up. Indeed,
woman-on-top was virtually compulsory, and anyone who didn't have
a sexual repertoire to rival the Kama Sutra had to hang her head
in shame. Feminists and sex experts united in the view that the
missionary position made a woman passive and subservient to her
man. And no wonder we didn't always climax -- in that position
the clitoris probably wasn't stimulated, and neither was the
G-spot!


Overnight, lying on your back was OUT. If you wanted to be cool
and empowered, you had to get out from under and take control, or
throw away your chances of the Big O forever. But are we having
more or better orgasms with the wealth of positions we've cricked
our necks and twisted our limbs to get into? Has our athleticism
and improvisation improved the quality of our lovemaking? A
reconsideration...



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