Q: I want to attract a SPECIFIC someone into my life.
However, there are several negative blockages/influences preventing this from
happening. He has feelings for me and we have been together. However, there is a
SPECIFIC someone keeping us apart. The specific someone I want to attract
completely into my life (not just on a part-time basis) is feeling heavily
"obligated" to this other party, though he has really no basis for
feeling this way. What can you do to help me?
A: What I know about the laws of attraction is that we can only manifest in
our own lives. Which in your case means that no matter how hard you try to
manifest a specific person into your life, you can not create something that the
other person is not a match to.
If the other person is a match vibrationally, meaning they also want to
manifest you into their lives, then you can focus on what you want and turn it
over to your higher power. If you feel any negativity - ANY negative emotion -
then you will know you are attached. When we are attached to the outcome, we
actually vibrate in opposition to that which we desire and actually keep what we
want away from us. We literally push away the very thing we say we want.
If I were in your shoes, I would first accept and surrender any attachment to
this person over to God (or your higher power). To do this, you would have to be
able to say with total conviction, "I let this person go. If they are meant
to be in my life then they will be. If it is part of the Divine plan to have
this relationship then I let it manifest easily. If not, then I release it - as
perfect. I surrender to the worst case scenario happening and I accept that I
may NEVER be with this person. And, somehow that is perfect and I am at
Peace."
Secondly, once I had achieved a vibration of Peace from the step above (being
at Peace with my greatest fear - thereby releasing resistance and attachment),
then I would say, "And, Universe, what I want is to be with someone who has
the qualities like this person… What I want is a love in my life that is
honest, affectionate, monogamous, emotionally and physically available, ready
for a long-term relationship, attractive to me, etc." Describe your ideal
scenario.
Third step would be to then let it all go, again. "I let this go;
knowing and accepting that this or something better is coming into my life now,
for the highest good of all concerned."
Also, I'd like to suggest that if you feel negative about this third person
that the best thing you can do is heal that feeling. Heal, forgive, forget, and
send love to them. Whatever it takes for you to release any and all fearful and
negative thoughts about them. Remember, "what we sow, we shall reap."
Send them love and thoughts of peace and send healing, peaceful, understanding
light and love to your heart as well.
It's hard to be in a situation where what you hear and what you see do not
match. When someone says they want to be with a person but then isn't because of
this reason or that reason, then the truth is they are not ready to do what they
say they want. Therefore, they do not really WANT what they say. The hardest
lesson I've learned about manifesting is that if we want to know what we want,
then all we have to do is look at what we have. It will always be a match
internally and vibrationally. And, it's on the inside that we have to change in
order to attract what we really want on the outside.
